The fact that men and women have different styles of communication has been obvious for a long time. When I was working towards my Ph.D. in the English Department at Carnegie Mellon University in the 1990s, Deborah Tannen’s book You Just Don’t Understand Me was all the rage. In it, Tannen explains how women use language to establish rapport and connection, whereas men use language to convey information and solve problems. Tannen argues that these two different communication